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Keeping Memories and Sharing Wisdome: Legacy Letter

reproduced and written by Amy Paul, President of Heirloom Works

 

What is a legacy letter? What is an Ethical Will? Are they the same and, if not, what are the differences?

Ethical Will, is a writing tradition in which the author expresses his/her life wisdom, love and life values with a loved one with the intention that it serve as a future guide, inspiration and support. The term recognizes the historical genesis of this practice, which comes from the Old Testament and was carried forward in the New Testament. The term, Legacy Letter, serves the same function as the Ethical Will, but is conceived outside any particular religious or historical foundation.

A Legacy Letter is a written document in which your life lessons, wisdom, family history and love are conveyed as a guide and source of comfort to your loved ones as a legacy for future generations.
Amy Paul, author, had worked as an advocate on behalf of older individuals for over 10 years. In addition, she was a caregiver for her elderly parents. As her parents got older, she drew upon their experience with older individuals and activities that they enjoyed, and engaged her father in writing his memoir. This proved to be an uplifting experience for her dad and her family received the memoir as a ‘treasure’ for themselves and future generations. She started to research into both memoir and alternative options that could offer similar benefits. That’s when she learned about Ethical Wills/Legacy Letters.

As a starting point, Amy suggests you decide to whom you wish to write, and if you will write one letter to your entire family or you will write a different letter to each individual. That decision will help you to think about how to write the letter.

If people have trouble starting to write, an encouragement to review their own values/life priorities before they start writing. Typically, one can distribute select ‘memory prompts’ and ‘values prompts’ to help them start writing on a blank page. Some people use the technique of mind mapping, too. A mind map is a diagram used to visually organize information. The map is hierarchical and shows relationships among pieces of the whole.

On a personal note: Years ago  after I moved my Dad from Indiana to California before I was an official senior move manager, I discovered a book “To My Children’s Children”. Each chapter has guided questions to interview an elder and loved one from birth to adulthood. I videotaped my Dad and our conversations. After the tapings, he would call me and say, I forgot to mention this or that.

What a treat to experience the process and give as a gift to a loved one.

Divorcehood and Widowhood: It takes a team to help!

Getting a divorce or losing a loved one is traumatic.

 

Divorce, it comes down to money and separation of personal assets. A team of professionals such as financial planner, attorney, real estate agent and “yes” a “move managers/professional organizer”, Carmel, IN based are your team. And most of the times it is in that order.

 

Widowhood, a loved one could have been sick for a while or a sudden accident.

 

Dealing with grief in both cases is so stressful and produces  “life cycle change”. Change is difficult, but when you have a team of professionals to help, it makes it a smoother transition.,

 

In both cases, as a move manager/professional organizer, Complete Relocation Solutions can assist in the following ways:

  1. A digital inventory of household assets (for the attorney, financial planner and the estate) . This inventory is placed on the “cloud” for divorce couples to review on their own, adult sibling(s) or family out of state can review without paying costly airplane flights and taking personal vacation time to come back to the state. The Inventory is created to view items in the home and individuals place an emotional value for the items they have an interest in . Creating opportunities of meaningful items without obstacles and disputes. We call it splitting assets not families (a product from "Fair Split")..

  2. Work alongside the couples individually or the widow on de-cluttering, sorting, and organizing in preparation to list the home for sale.

  3. Selling unwanted household items.

  4. Discarding, donating or shipping items to family members across the U.S.

  5. Provide floor planning for their new location and what will fit from their previous home to the new house, apartment orcondo.

  6. Packing and unpacking at the new location if local, if nationwide can refer colleagues to assist in any state.

  7. Rightsizing and resettling to provide peace and harmony at the new location.

We just get it done and we want to be a part of your team if you need assistance with a Life Cycle Event..

A Clutter Free 2018 Part 2 - The Bedroom

Since the weather is crummy and we have to stay inside, it’s a great time to re-organize and provide peace and harmony in your living spaces. As your expert professional organizer and move manager in the Indianapolis, IN area our team have some great organizing ideas.

 

 

-Organize your dresser drawers. The sock drawer. In part 1 I mentioned save longer lids from plastic containers. Use the lids to separate trouser socks from athletic socks. Do the same for you’re under wear drawer. If you don’t have lids, frugal method, use legal or letter size manila folders to separate garments. Or find drawer dividers at the container store.

-Unmatched shoes and socks discard.

-Have a system for soiled clothing. Basket in the closet or a closed top hamper in the bathroom.

-Go through your closet and change of seasonal clothes. Anything you haven’t worn in 2 years or more is a donation. If you’re a weight gainer or loser save only a couple of pieces of clothing to help you maintain your weight.

-Use the vertical space in your closet to maximize space. At your local hardware store pick up a couple of hangers that have short hooks facing up about 12” long. Nail that hanger to a short wall and hang necklaces, belts, ties and/ or lighter weight handbags. When you can visually see your items you will wear them more often.

-Use over the door hangers to hang long scarves and shawls.

-Buy a shoe rack that is narrow, high and sturdy to organize your shoes off the floor so you can visually see them.

-Make your bed before you leave the house because when you come home your place of rest is neat, tidy and will give you peace.

-The thin micro suede hangers are terrific, They hold your clothes on the hanger, keep its shape, and take less space in the closet compared to wood, wire, or plastic hangers. Donate big wooden hangers to high school band departments.

-Add light to your closet if it is dark. A brighter bulb or add a battery powered stick on the wall lamp.

There are several reasons you will need our services:

  • Passing of a family member or friend.
  • Final household clean-outs and gettng the house ready for the real estate market. Act as project manager for home renovations.
  • Home staging for active real estate showings.
  • Moving – Just packing or just unpacking at the new location.
  • Moving or downsizing an aging senior parent to independent, assisted living, or long term care.
  • Want to keep your aging senior parent in their home? "Age in Place". Re-organize and de-clutter. Safety is an issue.
  • Remodeling or Redecorating – packing breakables and clean and polish while unpacking.
  • Just organizing need for an extra pair of hands to help.
  • Divorce or separation.
  • Corporate employee transfers and relocations. No downtime for the employee relocation. Getting settled immediately.
  • Digitzing documents, photos, VHS tapes, slides. Preserving the memories.